Integrative Counsellor, based in Clapham, Lambeth, South West London
How Counselling Can Help You
Like a ship at sea, everyone’s life can sometimes hit stormy waters. There can be many reasons. Maybe it’s something we don’t have much control over. A bereavement. A broken relationship. Losing our job. Financial worries. Maybe we’ve tried to relieve our stress with alcohol or drugs and that too has got a bit out of control, only adding to our problems. Or perhaps it’s something harder to pin down. Like bad stuff that has happened to us in the past and which still has the power to make us unhappy in the present. This is where counselling can really help, steering us through the rough weather and helping us get our lives back on course, and as an experienced counsellor based in Clapham in Lambeth, I can assist you on your journey.
However much a person’s internal or external world is threatened, I believe that every individual has the power to make positives changes in their life and grow into a happier person. It’s the awareness of this possibility that usually brings people to my door in Clapham. it’s my job to harness that desire and make it a reality.
As a trained counsellor based in Clapham, I offer a safe place for the individual to explore what is going on for them, helping them to understand and then activate their internal and external resources to develop their resilience in the face of their particular issues.
I believe that every client , consciously or not, lets the therapist know what they would like from therapy. I adapt the therapy to the client, as opposed to letting the client adapt to the therapy. By integrating a personal approach, combining my own understanding with different theoretical models, to get the best for the individual. In addition to my person centred approach, I use intervention such as Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), a psychotherapy technique with a highly successful track record in help people suffering from trauma, anxiety and other emotional issues.
My Own Journey
My personal journey into personal therapy was a gradual and humbling process. I started my working life as a Civil Servant. Over time, my role within the organisation changed, I became more compassion focused as I formed groups to look into equal opportunities at work to help people to realise their fullest potential. I organised workshops and invited experts to give talks on topics such Race, Sexuality, Gender and LGBTQ matters. In my spare time I volunteered with Terrence Higgins Trust offering support people living with HIV. This involved paying home visits, helping with domestic issues, such as shopping, cooking and sharing hobbies or cinema going. This was my way of giving back to an organisation which has helped friends in their hour of need.
I worked at Positive East, offering one-to-one counselling for the wide spectrum of people living with or affected by HIV. This ranged fom working with newly diagnosed clients to those who, thanks to advances in treatment, are now thriving medically but who are still experiencing emotional trauma from their experience. From 2010 to 2014, I volunteered as a trainee counsellor at One Day At A Time (ODAAT), the recovery services of Hope Worldwide UK working with men who have problematic use of drugs and alcohol. In July 2014, I began working as an Addiction Counsellor for ODAAT.
in my past and current jobs, and where I am in now in private practice based in Clapham, my clients are always my greatest teachers. They have taught me humility, expanded my ability to empathise with human suffering and enabled me to become a compassionate witness in many lives that seem to have been wrecked by trauma. I also incorporate Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) into my work in Clapham because in my experience, we are our own biggest critics, far too ready to rush to self- judgement at breakneck speed. I encourage my clients to develop compassion for themselves and be mindful and open to their own sufferings, instead of denying or minimising them.
I am experienced in helping clients who have experienced difficulties with :
My counselling practice is based in Clapham, in the borough of Lambeth, South West London. It's just 5 minutes walk from the Clapham North Station Underground Station, and you can click here to see a map.